It’s time to cut yourself some slack. Most of us are experts at being hard on ourselves and novices at being easy with ourselves. Listen to your self-talk. How many times per day do you tell yourself something to the tune of: “I’m not good enough, I am not deserving, something is wrong with me, I should have done or been more, better or different”? And is telling yourself these things bring more joy, fulfillment, success, and peace into your life? I suspect not.
If you talked to your friends the way you talk to yourself and had the expectations of them you have of yourself, how many friends would you have? Today let’s UPdate the old “Golden Rule” to: “do unto yourself what you do to others and do not do unto yourself what you would not do to others.”
It’s time to mute the voice of your inner critic because the more airtime you give it, the more you start to believe all the lies you are telling yourself.
Here is the truth: You are perfect, whole and complete just as you are. You have never done anything wrong and have always done the best you could. There is nothing bad, broken or undeserving about you. What other people think of you is none of your business. It is your human right (and purpose) to express and share all your fabulous qualities!
It’s time to befriend yourself by choosing UPlifting self-talk. My prescription to support you in doing this is to incorporate these two very simple daily practices:
1. Every morning when you wake up or on your way to work, listen to the song I’m Amazing and believe the lyrics as you sing along.
2. Read this passage by Marianne Williamson, out loud, while looking at yourself in the mirror. Trust me, it’s powerful.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make and manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” – Marianne Williamson
Today, declare yourself an expert at self-acceptance and apply the Golden Rule onto yourself!
Christine Hassler has broken down the complex and overwhelming experience of recovering from disappointment into a step-by-step treatment plan in her new book Expectation Hangover. This book reveals the formula for how to process disappointment on the emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual levels to immediately ease suffering. Instead of wallowing in regret, self-recrimination, or anger, we can see these experiences as catalysts for profound transformation and doorways that open to possibility.